To win a battle we need skilled and armed Soldiers. Battle against the MAYAVI RAWAN TAMBAKU-ASUR has begun with Inner wheel District 310 taking the stride under the leadership of DC SONAL BHATIA.
The Winning battle is started, and the recruitment is on. The might of tambaku-asur cannot be underestimated – the manufacturers, the vendors, the poor farmers, irresponsible media, greedy actors, and poorly informed politicians. They are responsible for the death of around 3700 people every day. A death that is prolonged, painful, and kills the person and ruins the family.
The shakti is born in the form of SONAL BHATIA -sincere, dedicated, and determined. JO SOCCHTE , WHO KAHTE HAIN aur KAR KE DIKATE HAIN. The stubbornness of SONAL BHATIA is the death knell for tambakuasur. She is recruiting the SHEROES as tobacco MARSHAL to take the tambaku-asur head-on. The mighty clever asur with its ever-increasing tentacles needs a well-planned, determined skilled army, and when the NARI SHAKTI with SONAL BHATIA at the helm rises the winning of the battle is inevitable.
Each Tobacco MARSHAL is a unit of power. Doing their bit in their surroundings starting from their home protecting family and influencing the workers – maids, drivers, malli, stepping out to involve and influence others. BOOND – BOOND SE GHADA BAHRTA HAIN. The determination is clear the goal is set and responsibility defined – reach 3 teach 3 make India Tobacco Free.
We bow to the power of Women Shakti! We are with you Sonal.
Spouse has a very important role to play for tobacco cessation. Here I am only addressing the wife! There would be conflicts I have patients where the husband came to know about his wife’s habit post marriage. Traditionally Indians do not ask about the tobacco habits and even if they do the husbands would usually lie, or say “I will Quit-I promise”. A promise which is hard to keep.
Sufferings of an Indian Lady whose husband smokes –
Have to manage with foul smelling husband
Keep cleaning the washrooms, bedrooms etc.
Cleaning the stains on his clothes (In India it is wife’s job!)
Infertility and dis-balanced sexual life
Finance and economic dis balance
Caretaker when the husband who is often ill because of his tobacco habit
Taking care of family when husband is no more or crippled because of illness
Passive smoking or tobacco chewing affects
Suffer illness (hypertension, COPD, Wrinkling of skin etc)
Infective disease – Tuberculosis
Complicated diseases like cancer, cardiac, stroke
The Future generation may be crippled
A LADY SUFFERS FOR NO MISTAKE OF HERS
Different type of wives when it comes to the tobacco habit of their husband
Helpless and suffering – the Indian traditional wives. She is aware of the harms of tobacco but cannot get the husband to understand or quit.
Ignorant and accepts as it is. Not aware of the harms of tobacco as because it has been used traditionally in her family too
Partners – starts using tobacco along with him.
Firm – She is aware of the harms and firm with her husband and pushes him to rectify his habit
Quarreling – keeps scolding but does nothing about his tobacco use
Helping – learns the various methods of quitting and takes the husband to doctors, help him quit
NAGGING – because of frustration and suffering at some point of time this would show up and become a part of the relationship. This may have a negative affect and the husband may become more adamant.
TAKE ACTION
A newly wed wife has to take immediate action once she comes to know about the spouse’s disease. If it is accepted in the beginning, but slowly it becomes a chronic issue and gets more difficult to treat as time passes.
The challenge is getting support, tobacco use is so rampant and accepted in the society that she does not get family support. But being firm and knowledgeable helps.
How to know:
There are tell-tale signs of tobacco use whether smoking or chewing
Stains on teeth and /or lips
Bad foul smelly breaths
Constant coughing
Stains on nail beds, fingers
Foul smelly hairs and cloths
Some behavioral aspects that one needs to notice
Chewing gums – constant use
Frequently disappearing
Going for a walk avoiding you
Friend circle
Laboratory and Qualitative assessment
Laboratory tests are available for confirmation of tobacco use (Cotinine Test)
Qualitative assessment of present health assessment
It is important that one should know and decide before tying the knot. Tobacco is a disease and you do not want to be wedded to a diseased person. Either he takes treatment and is cured for at least 6 months or he is not the right choice for you.
Help is available. Tobacco as a disease needs intensive treatment. ICanCaRe Tobacco Wellness Centers and Online Tobacco Wellness program are just a call away. ICanCaRe team of Certified tobacco Cessation Specialists and Quit Coaches work with you to make your journey smooth, easy, interesting and achievable.
The ICanCaRe Tobacco Wellness Program incorporates evidence-based protocol digitalized intervention program which is both medically validated and scientific in its nature. It is data driven and has given a success rate of 92%.
ICanCaRe Tobacco Wellness Centres with its India’s first digital protocol-based assessment process guide intervention as per requirements.
Do visit the ICanCaRe Tobacco Wellness Centres or register online by visiting our page or call ICanCaRe quit line 011-430-77695.
Spouse has a very important role to play for tobacco cessation (quitting smoking or tobacco chewing). Frustration and non compliance by a husband gives rise to nagging as means to vent out the current irritation. Nagging by spouse may be due to many reasons, I am restricted here to tobacco use only.
What is Nagging
Annoy or irritate (a person) with persistent fault finding or continuous urging. Nagging although is meant for a good intention but may just have an opposite affect. Because of frustration and suffering at some point of time this would show up and become a part of the relationship. This may have a negative affect and the partner may become more adamant.
A LADY SUFFERS FOR NO MISTAKE OF HERS JUST BECAUSE OF HUSBAND’S TOBACCO USE!
Response/reactions of husbands to nagging:
IGNORE – least bothered; all bickering just falls on a deaf ear
REACT – Quarrelling just becomes part of life
AVOID – spends more time with similar friends outside house
LIE – makes the partner believe that he has quit
ATTEMPT – tries to quit, at some point of time
LOW SELF ESTEEM – previous failed attempts makes him loose confidence in himself, cannot see eye to eye with his spouse and this may reflect in his work
DEPRESSION – severe inappropriate reactions
What to do?
A constant tussle sets in wife constantly urging him to quit and the husband is not able to find a solution. Majority of self-quit attempts fails!
Ways to Avoid Being a Nag
Don’t blame.
Don’t demean.
Don’t attack.
Don’t criticize.
Don’t manipulate.
Avoid making your spouse feel stupid.
Don’t give in to your frustration and do your spouse’s chores. Your mate needs to learn to deal with the logical consequences of being messy.
Instead of Nagging, Try Positive Approaches
Share your feelings.
Stick to the issue at hand.
Keep your statements brief so they don’t turn into long lectures.
Don’t make ultimatums.
Avoid using the phrases, “You always…” and “You never…” and “You should…”
Consider saying “would you” or “will you” rather than “could you” or “can you”. There’s a subtle difference in the way the request will be heard by your spouse.
TAKE ACTION
Tobacco is a disease. It needs treatment and a specialist care. One needs to approach the person with empathy. Empower yourself with the knowledge about tobacco addiction and cure. Download the ICANCARE ANDROID APP.
Help is available. Tobacco as a disease and needs intensive treatment. ICanCaRe Tobacco Wellness Centres and Tobacco Wellness Online program are a call away. ICanCaRe team of Certified tobacco Cessation Specialists and Quit Coaches work with you to make your journey smooth, easy, interesting and achievable.
The ICanCaRe Tobacco Wellness Program incorporates evidence protocol based digitalized intervention program which is very scientific in its approach, data driven and medically validated and at the same time gives 92% success rate.
ICanCaRe Tobacco Wellness Centres with its India’s first digital protocol based assessment process guide intervention as per requirements.
Do visit the ICanCaRe Tobacco Wellness Centres or register online by visiting our page or call ICanCaRe quitline 011-430-77695 for assistance.
